Archive for April, 2011

When Neil and I run courses we are often asked “What profile makes the perfect partner?”

I’m afraid there isnt a perfect partner profile! It’s a pity as we could have made a lot of money selling it!

What the NBI brain profile does do is help couples develop a better understanding of each other.

In doing so tolerance and excitement is enhanced instead of criticism and a constant battle of trying to change others to be more like you!

So is the secret to a long and happy marriage a whole brain marriage? We can certainly see evidence of Prince William using whole brain thinking. He has delayed marrying Kate to give them both time to get to know each other and to give her time to come to terms with her exacting role as future Queen. She has had advice from ‘protocol experts’ with tips on how to wave and engage with the public. As Tom Bradby says in the Times today he has an “aching determination to make sure he never gets anything wrong” and so far neither of them has made any significant errors of judgement. As Alison Pearson said in Newsweek to be a good royal wife you have to “combine the aura of a silent movie star and the discipline of a Cistercian num” and Kate is “perfect for the role”. So planning, preparation, perfection all these are signs of left brain thinking.

Then the evidence for Prince William using his right brain, he certainly surprised her with his proposal in Kenya and it was evident from their first interview together that he is affectionate, caring and loving. I especially liked the way he reassuringly patted her hand and told her she would do very well when she was asked about becoming a member of the royal family. There is also the way he rushed out to New Zealand after the earthquake yes to pay his respects but I think to show the New Zealand people that he really cared about their loss.

When we are courting we are often marketing ourselves and creating a facade of maybe someone who we aren’t. They say love is blind and is this why some marriages fail in the first two years?

William and Kate have known each other for quite some time now and have lived together too; they have given themselves the best chance of making this marriage work. 

What is clear is that for any relationship to work it’s not a question of giving 50/50 but 100%.

I personally love a wedding and even if you aren’t a royalist I’m sure you will join me in wishing Prince William and Catherine Middleton a long and happy marriage.

But what do you think will it be a long and happy marriage or will it all end in tears?

Productivity and the Y Generation

IQ we know…EQ….we know but now we need to be considering OQ …Organisational Intelligence!

We are pleased to announce a new association with Dr Zoe Douglas-Judson of inspired-iq.com and we are seeking Directors to be involved in working with us to explore how to best equip their businesses to capture the strength of their Y generation employees with their organisations structure. Success will mean more innovation, productivity improvements and reduced key staff turnover. Interested? please email us at info@wholebrainthinking.co.uk

The Secret to Happiness?

Monday 11th April, 2011

Politicians want to measure our happiness, but they need to distinguish between fulfillment and fleeting feelings so says Libby Purves in today’s Times. She goes on to cite Ken Dodd’s song “Happiness! Happiness! The greatest gift that I possess”   and the fact that at 84 he is still honing new jokes, touring six-hour shows and bathing in giggling applause. She ends her article by saying “ Work, achievement, an answering echo from humanity: all you need”. In that last sentence has Libby hit the nail on the head? Is the secret to happiness all about doing something you love doing? In 2007 Des O Connor was honoured with a CBE and is quoted as saying “I haven’t done a day’s work in my life.” “I’ve done a day’s effort but not work, because it’s something I love,”

Could the secret to Ken Dodd’s happiness be the fact that he loves doing what he does? If you are doing something you love doesn’t that have an impact on everything important in your life? Your health and your family and aren’t you a better friend if you are personally fulfilled?

This is also the essence of Sir Ken Robinson’s book ‘The Element’ and I quote “we need to create environments – in our schools, in our workplaces and in our public offices- where every person is inspired to grow creatively. We need to make sure that all people have the chance to do what they should be doing, to discover the Element in themselves and in their own way.

So this takes us back to schools, how many young people do you know who leave school not knowing what they want to do and then go onto university still not knowing? Or start courses and then realise it’s not for them!

This is another reason why we are passionate about the NBI Brain Profile. It’s great when you help someone find their talent and a sense of who they are. Like Karen who says “The Brain Profiling had a big impact on my personal life as well as professionally.  I had been going through that mid-life review of “how did I get here and am I heading in the right direction for my future?” Karen saw her profile and decided to go to do a part time textile course at college. “I have increased the amount of personal satisfaction I feel and I love telling people I am a textile designer”

It also begs the question if businesses were more interested in the personal development of their people would that make them more successful? In one if his talks Sir Ken told of how the company Pixar actively encourages their staff to pursue personal development as they recognise the value in doing this.

Is this the real direction David Cameron should be heading in? Isnt this what makes us ‘flourish’ as Martin Seligman puts it?

I don’t know what it is about Libby Purves and her articles but she always strikes a cord with me. Her article on Friday “If you play the cheap fares game, follow the rule” is a case in point.

Under that headline she wrote “There are rich rewards for anyone with broadband and a brain” In my opinion that should have read “There are rich rewards for anyone with broadband and a left brain”. All these offers, cheap fares etc favour the more organised among us i.e. more left brain in their thinking. So if you want to plan your trips in advance and book tickets weeks ahead then you are rewarded with cheap fares but if like me your preference is to be more spontaneous and see how the mood takes you then you have to pay over the odds. It’s not just train tickets it’s the same with Tesco vouchers. If you save up your vouchers you can make bigger savings. Many of my friends brag about ‘free’ weekends away and one acquaintance had pulled off a ‘free’ holiday in the Caribbean just by buying everything from Tesco. I stand in admiration.

My latest vouchers came from Tesco and I had £12 worth of vouchers and these were worth up to £36 with Clubcard rewards. I have to swop these vouchers for tokens by going onto the Tesco web site. But this means I have to think ahead about dates and where I want to go or what I want to buy/eat and basically be very structured and organised all of which doesn’t come naturally to me!

I guess one company who does favour the right brain is lastminute.com and we have had a few bargains from them. But why can’t more companies favour right brain people. Why can’t there be last minute train tickets for those people who want to risk it? Train companies could sell off cheap train tickets at the last minute? 

Why can’t we use our Tesco card to buy things with our points we just have to tell companies our Tesco card number and they can see how many points we have and what that equates to? Don’t tell me that’s too complicated because when we can get computers small enough to be put into someone’s eye and I quote

“A team of computer engineers and scientists at the University of Michigan has made a prototype of what they believe is the world’s smallest computer. It’s a solar-powered device that’s just one cubic millimetre in size, and is designed to go inside the human eye”

Then they must be able to do this. No I believe they are forcing us to be more left brained in our thinking and it won’t do!

Maybe one of these days I will take a holiday into my L2 quadrant and surprise everyone with how organised I can be!! Oink oink there goes those flying pigs again.